In The Catcher in the Rye, what did Holden realise when Phoebe wanted to grab the ring in the carousel? Holden said, "if they want to grab for the gold...

It is at
this moment whencomes to the realization that his idea of being a "catcher in the rye"
to stand between children and danger is futile. While his impulse is noble, it is not realistic.
Growing up, he has discovered, is fraught with painful experiences, but learning how to
negotiate them is what builds our resilience and maturity. Holden understands thatmust be
allowed to grow up unimpeded, even if that means she will be at risk of experiencing pain from
time to time.

Holden is not afraid of a harsh response from Phoebe on the
carousel. He understands that the carousel is not a place for him, a young man in his late
teens, and that he must leave the trappings of childhood behind him. He knows it is time to
return home, face the music, and begin to resolve his psychological issues.